kTeach self respect

When I  started raising dogs I was upset when the males would poke, paw,
nip, and try to harass the females  almost constantly.  The female had no
peace while out in the yard with  an obnoxious male.  Too prevent this
overbearing attitude I would juggle the dogs in the yard  to protect the
females and peace and harmony were regained.  And the males were half ways
segregated.   It seemed all was well.  Time passed and when the two year old
females were introduced to an ardent excited male they freaked out.  They
would flagg and invite, but when the male put a paw on their back they would
wheel around and bite viscously, not at all inviting, and neither dog or I
understood the reason for the mixed messages.

However, in hind sight, I realize I had messed with the way God had it set
up.   Or another way to put it - Its not nice to mess with Mother Nature.
Some how, that poking and picking the male was doing as a young dog  was a
conditioning process that the female had to go through  to become accustomed
to the mating process and letting the male enter her personal area.   And
also might affect the males libido and confidence too.

When my children were young ( and so was my dog kennel)   not much was known
about our brains and I can remember a young man at a parenting class
actually mourning over the thought that just one harsh word could harm his
daughter for all her life.  In another class an example of a  scolding
mother saying that boys are awful  could imprint  and she could distrust men
all her life.  This awakening knowledge was a new way of thinking and
incomplete in its beginning stages. In fact there is still a lot to learn.
I think our children are a lot like my dogs.  The relations between people
starts as soon as the little boy can pick up the little dump truck and throw
it at the little girl.       The relations between people, the give and take
necessary to get along is a learned process that starts early, and if we
protect, or intervene too much we do a lot of damage.

Also with the popularity of computer games, the interaction between children
is not  being completed. It is like my separating my dogs to keep the peace.
We  take away their time together.    Another problem is  manners.    It is
common practice to stop the young boy from creaming the bratty little girl
that is sticking her tongue out at him.  The common rule is You do not hit
women.  Period.  Maybe this is imprinting on his brain that women don’t
fight fair. They take liberties and  get guys into trouble ALL THE TIME.
And just maybe this unfair advantage makes them very uncomfortable around
women and they would rather be with another guy.  This feeling could last
all his life also.    Strange things can happen from the smallest of
incidents.     We do mess with Mother Nature, you know.